Recently a discussion with a friend of mine, brought to light a horrific section of this society.... child abuse... and i'm talking in terms of sexual abuse.... be it molestation or forcing the child to do something sexual act, whatever be the nature...... Its something that can scar a child for life..... hampering their future relationships..... A friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend because she was paranoid about him kissing her and that lead to many a heated discussion and she is just 18-19.... neither could she bring herself to talk about this to him.... can you imagine how deeply she has been scarred?? Research says mostly its done by people who are elder and well-known to the child..... enjoying a position of trust..... and for the rest its completely strangers!! But what makes them commit such a heinous crime?? What makes them do so?? WHY do they do it??
This is what one of my friends had to say about this:
"Child Sexual Abuse infact is a heinous crime... The scary fact is the victims dont even kno what is being done to them... They dont even understand it, and hence cannot react to it... They are just left with an emotional trauma.... Some may forget it as the time passes and in some cases it affects the whole life of the child......
There have been cases wherein females are scared to share any physical relationship with their husbands because they have experienced such abuse in their childhood, are not out of that trauma and unfortunately cannot even discuss it.....
Most of the times such crimes are done by psychologically sick people though they are normal people like us, and are completely in their senses while doing any such act.... They need not be from the lower section of the society or sexually frustrated people....
Its a psychological sickness and the criminals can be from any class of society.... Most of the times these are the people who are close to the child:
1. Parents, Siblings, Relative
2. Childcare Professionals/Babysitters
3. Teachers/Clergy/Coaches
4. Neighbours or Friends
5. Strangers
Children are the easy victims for them coz first they do not understand whats happening and secondly if threatened they will never open up about it to anyone, nor can they oppose such act.....
Just to wind up this topic:
1. Its the responsibility of every parent to make sure they develop a confidence in their child that he/she can open up with you for any of their problems...
2. We should not leave our child with strangers, neighbours, friends or relatives who are not so close.
3. Should keep a close eye on the child's behaviour, and if any abnormality occurs should try to get the reason out of the child.
4. Unfortunately if any such thing happens to the child, we should try and get the child out of that trauma, by presenting that it is not a very big thing... If needed some psychiatric treatment and couseling should help... But the most important treatment would be parents support and love.....
As far as the criminals are concerned, I personally believe that any sexual abuse with anyone, not only children, should have the punishment of death sentence... no lesser a punishment is justifiable...... "
What do you say??
What's your time?
9 comments:
true...and a very sensitive topic...not many ppl discuss it openly...and i think the person in act mite be a person who mite have been thru such a situation or some kind of an incident that mite happened in life..so punishment shud be given accordingly if the act was done purely out of urge then the punishment may be death... else accordingly..
I THINK TAHAT THID BLOG REALLY MAKES US THINK OVER ISSUES THAT HAVE BEEN FOR YEARS STIGMATISED,STIGMA ATTACHED TO THE THE WHOLE ISSUE OF ABUSE,AS IF THE ONE ABUSED IS A CRIMINAL,AND THE ABUSER IRONICALLY THE VICTIM.
I GUESSS ITS A GRAVE ISSUE WHICH SHOULD BE THOUGHT ABOUT BY PEOPLE AT LARGE
Hmm..excellent post..this is just one of those issues that a lot of us are not sensitive about if we haven't experienced it ourselves..but yes, it does happen a lot..but it remains hidden..
the other day, i was reading about his survey conducted in India where they found out that every 3rd child had suffered from child abuse by the time he/she was in their 20s.
So obviously this is a big problem.
Anyway, keep up the good work guys...also check out my blog, it also deals with social issues and trying to create positive change..
Just to add something here.
Parents should tell their small children the difference between a 'good touch' and a 'bad touch'.
And that their private parts are PRIVATE... not to be touched by anyone else. If so, they should be confident enough to bring it to the notice of parents.
hmm great article and yes this is such a sensitive issue specially because the victims r innocent children who havnt a clue as to what wrong is happning to them.
and i agree with cuckoo the first thing that parents should teach kids is the diffrence between a "good touch" and a "bad touch"
another thing that needs to be seen to is proper sex education. for all are not lucky enough to learn the right way through books or find the "right" sort of frenz for the same. some basic facts need 2 come from parents themselves. they should learn to shed thier inhibitions and be approachable for thier children on these matters.
thnx lot sahil, cuckoo and aashi for your views.... really appreciate it!!
Are you crazy the girl was 18 and the boy was 19 and the guy asked for a kiss. and you say she was scarred for life. Both are of legal age to voice their opinion. There are kids has young has 4 or 5 being raped and you give us this stupid example. All the girl had to do was break up with the boyfriend. Give proper examples next time.
rahul!! read it properly... the girl was abused as a kid, adn tat affected her relationship, years later... wen she was 18-19....
abused as a kid.... after-effects still visible wen she is in her late teens!!
so, next time you go around citing something as stupid.... read carefully....
FYI: this particular girl was abused wen she was 5.... i was never citing the examples of abuses.. i was citing its after effcts!!
LEARN TO READ!!
Thank you for having wrote this. Many of us live in denial about these things imagining them to be sick creations of movie makers and novel writers. The truth is that many of these people are amongst us, with us, and we do not even know it. It is true that these children will be scarred for life. Some will heal and some will not.
AND THIS HAPPENS IN INDIA TOO~!
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